seen with a clearer perspective, the W word can change into a whole new
world that presents you with opportunities for growth, learning, and
flexing your potential. It just depends on the way you look at it. It
can be too easy to look at weakness through the lens of comparison. For
example, statements such as "He can do this" or "She can do that" are
usually followed by a disappointed "I can't."
It's also too easy
sometimes to look at weakness through the lens of permanence. For
example, once you see that you have a weakness it can feel like nothing
will ever change and you're stuck in that category. If you bend your ear
a little closer and listen to what weaknesses are really saying,
however, you'll hear a different story.
weakness will let you know that you've walked into a new area that can
be developed in your life. For example, maybe you're learning how to
play tennis and at first your forehand shot looks like a permanent
weakness in your game. But then you think some more about this mentality
and start noticing, "Hey--it's too premature to decide this...I haven't
even tried to develop my forehand yet!"
So you start to practice,
stay dedicated, and after a few months, your forehand is in a different
category from just a plain "Weakness." It is still a beginner level
shot, but now it's been renamed in your mind as a developing skill. Not
only is your forehand getting better, but it's also teaching you new
things about your learning style, your overall tennis form, and your
ability to adapt on the court. Doesn't that sound a whole lot more
workable than a plain old weakness?
Weaker areas in your body and
health often whisper valuable advice to you as well about opportunities
for growth and stretching your horizons. For example, maybe you
consistently have trouble sleeping and have labeled your sleep as "bad"
or "weak." The more trouble you have sleeping, the more you chastise
your sleep and feel weak in this area of health. Meanwhile, your sleep
starts knocking a little louder and telling you to look at other parts
of your health and your life. It wants you to pay attention to the
factors that may be making it difficult for you to achieve a good
You decide to listen and start to
see all kinds of clues that your sleep was trying to send you about your
health. It turns out that your diet can use a little tweaking so that
you get more energizing nutrition during the day and less stimulating
sweets and carbs at night. Your sleep also pointed out that stress was
starting to build a little too high for comfort. Not taking care of your
daytime stress, it started following you to bed at night. You decide to
make a few changes to your lifestyle and you not only start sleeping
better, but you also now have a more supportive diet and more effective
stress management in place.
The "W's," or weaknesses in your
life--with enough practice, patience, and dedication--can turn into
"S's," or strengths. Don't let the word "weakness" loom larger than it
needs to and create a barrier between you and your potential for growth
and learning. If you listen carefully, your weaknesses can teach you a
lot. So, in which areas of your life and your health do you want to turn a weakness into a strength?